Self-esteem is a tricky thing, isn't it?
Enter social media. THAT IS ANOTHER LEVEL. Look at all these lovely happy people living their best lives...🤦🏽♀️ It's a trap! Watching everyone's highlights, you start comparing them to your lows. I cannot stress enough how damaging this is.
So what do you do? How can this be fixed?
For me, I have to look away from the feed.
I hang out with my two wonderful boys, growing up before my very eyes.
I grab a book for ten minutes, which ends up being two lovely hours in Hogswarts.
I turn on my favorite Spotify playlist and work on my latest puzzle.
I get that sketchbook out and let out all those pesky emotions.
I workout for 30 minutes, usually cursing whoever created burpees.
I let myself be me.
But this takes practice. This takes patience. OMG it's hard, and strangely enough, it can get harder. This is why I believe honesty is so important for self-care. Questions like, "What upsets me? What makes me feel less than?" need to become "What makes me feel good? What inspires me to be a better version of me?"
These answers don't automatically appear when you ask the questions. If fact, these answers can change over time. At this moment in my life, the best I can do is to be present. Know what I need at this exact moment.
This might mean unfollowing accounts that bring up my own self-destructive tendencies. This could mean cutting off toxic friendships. Your own self-care is more important than somebody else's hurt feelings. It is imperative to put yourself first. Let me repeat this: IT IS IMPERATIVE TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST. Get your sense of self back. This world needs you.